Most scams in adult chat use one pattern: a stranger moves you to a different app, and then asks for money. You stay safe when you keep the chat on the site, share no personal data, and never pay a person from a chat room. If someone blackmails you, stop all replies, do not pay, keep the evidence, and report it.
The six common scams
1. "Add me on another app", then pay
A friendly person asks for your Snapchat, Telegram, Kik or WhatsApp name after two or three lines. On the other app, the talk turns to money: a paid "private show", a "premium" page, or a link. The moderators of this site cannot help you on a different app.
In public rooms here, the filter blocks phone numbers, links and off-site handles. A person who tries to get around that filter tells you something about their purpose. The guide about a request to move to another app has more detail.
2. Fake verification links
The person says that they must know that you are "real" or "safe". They send a link to an "age check" or "safety ID" page. The page asks for a card number "for verification only". Then charges appear on the card.
No user can verify you. This site asks for your date of birth on the entry form and nothing more. It never sends you to a different site to prove who you are.
3. Sextortion, which is blackmail with screenshots
This scam does the most harm. A person flirts, then asks for intimate photos or a video call on a different app, and records everything. Then they threaten to send the images to your family, friends or employer. They ask for money to stop.
Sextortion is a crime. The victim is not the person who did wrong.
4. "Send a gift card"
A person asks for a gift card code for a phone bill, a game, or "to prove that you are serious". A gift card code is the same as cash. A real person who likes you does not ask for a code.
5. Romance money requests
This scam is slow. The person talks to you for days or weeks and builds trust. Then a problem comes: a hospital bill, a blocked bank account, a ticket to visit you. Each request is bigger than the last.
6. Bots with one script
A bot sends the same lines to everyone. It does not answer your questions. The script always ends with a link or an off-site name.
To find a bot, ask a simple question that needs a real answer. For example: "What did I say two lines ago?"
The signs, in one list
- The person wants to leave the site in the first few minutes.
- The person sends a link, or spells out a web address to get past the filter.
- The talk gets sexual very fast, and the person pushes you to send images.
- The story includes money, gift cards, crypto, or a "verification" step.
- The person does not answer simple questions about what you said.
- The person makes you feel that you must hurry.
What to do on this site
- Stop the chat. You do not owe an explanation.
- Report the user. Tap the username and choose Report. A moderator gets the report with the last 20 messages for context.
- Report an image. Tap the image and choose "Report image".
- Ignore the user. Tap the username and choose Ignore. After that, you do not see messages from that user.
- Change who can message you. In the chat settings, set "Who can message me" to a stricter choice.
Selling, buying, spam, threats and harassment are all banned here. Bans are by account, by network address and by device. The guide on how moderation works explains the process.
You can also lower your risk before trouble starts. Pick a name that is not your real name or your name on social media. Do not send images that show your face. For more steps, read how to stay private in adult chat.
A good start is to stay in the public rooms for a time. In the adult chat room, the filter and the moderators are between you and a scammer.
If someone blackmails you
Do these things, in this order:
- Stop all replies. Do not argue, and do not ask for mercy. Each reply tells the scammer that pressure works.
- Do not pay. Payment does not end it. The scammer asks again, usually for more.
- Keep the evidence. Take screenshots of the usernames, the threats, the payment details and the times. Do not delete the chat.
- Report the account on each platform where the person contacted you. If you met in one of our rooms, report the user here too.
- Lock your social media. Set your profiles and your friends list to private for a time.
- Report it to the police. In the United States, use the FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3). In the United Kingdom, use Action Fraud, which now has the name Report Fraud. In other countries, contact your local police.
If the person in the images was under 18 when the images were made, use the Take It Down service from NCMEC. It helps to remove such images from online platforms, and it does not ask for your name. This site is for adults only, and it reports suspected child abuse material to NCMEC.
Blackmail causes shame, and scammers use that shame. Tell one person that you trust. You do not need to handle this alone.
Questions
What is the most common scam in adult chat rooms?
The most common scam is a request to move to a different app, and then a request for money. The money request can be a paid show, a verification fee, or a gift card. If you keep the chat on the site and never pay a stranger, this scam does not work.
Do I pay a blackmailer to delete my photos?
No. Payment does not remove the images, and it shows the scammer that you pay under pressure. Scammers usually ask for more money after the first payment. Stop all replies, keep the evidence, and report it to the platform and to the police.
How do I report a scammer on this site?
Tap the username and choose Report. To report a picture, tap the image and choose Report image. The report goes to a human moderator together with the last 20 messages, so the moderator can see what happened.
Can other users see my IP address or my location?
No. Other users see only your name, gender, age and country. The site itself records your IP address and device data for bans and abuse handling, and keeps them for 90 days after your last visit. The privacy page gives the full list.